Episode 93

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9th Sep 2026

From Survival to Self-Trust: Marine Corps Veteran Raelynn Beintker on Breaking Cycles, Finding Her Voice, and Choosing Herself

Summary:

What happens when the place you thought would save you ends up teaching you difficult lessons about power, belonging, and who you want to become? In this episode of Dog Tag Diaries, Captain Kimberly sits down with Marine Corps veteran, mother, storyteller, and podcast host Raelynn Beintker. Raelynn shares how growing up with poverty, addiction, abuse, and early responsibility shaped her strength and eventually led her to the Marines. She opens up about finding structure and belonging in boot camp, then facing sexism, double standards, body image pressure, harassment, and disappointment in the fleet. Raelynn also reflects on breaking family patterns, learning to put herself first, changing the way she speaks about her life, and finding the courage to tell her story. Her journey is a powerful reminder that we can honor where we came from while choosing what comes next.

Key Topics:

  • Creating space for self-care and practicing “divine selfishness” (00:06:20)
  • Growing up with poverty, addiction, abuse, and early responsibility (00:10:49)
  • Searching for a way out of destructive patterns after high school (00:17:31)
  • Choosing the Marine Corps as a path toward independence (00:21:45)
  • How a chaotic childhood prepared Raelynn for boot camp (00:24:15)
  • Facing sexism, body image pressure, and double standards in the fleet (00:25:59)
  • Harassment, military consequences, and learning to make herself small (00:31:17)
  • What Raelynn wishes she knew before joining the military (00:34:10)
  • Breaking generational cycles and changing the stories we tell ourselves (00:38:19)
  • Creating My Heart of the Story and finding the courage to share her voice (00:41:47)

Notable Quotes & Moments:

  • “You can’t scare me. You think you’re going to break me, and I’m sure you’re going to teach me, but you can’t break me.” – Raelynn on how her childhood prepared her for boot camp (00:25:26)
  • “The Marine Corps was the best and worst decision I ever made.” – Raelynn on the impact military service had on her life (00:38:19)
  • “I’m the only one that can choose what comes next.” – Raelynn on breaking old patterns and taking ownership of her story (00:39:27)

Timestamps:

  • 00:02:23 – Introducing Marine Corps veteran Raelynn Beintker
  • 00:06:20 – Morning rituals, self-care, and “divine selfishness”
  • 00:10:49 – Childhood, poverty, addiction, abuse, and caregiving
  • 00:17:31 – High school struggles and searching for a different future
  • 00:21:45 – The decision to join the Marine Corps
  • 00:24:15 – Culture shock and adapting to boot camp
  • 00:25:59 – Sexism, body image, and double standards in the fleet
  • 00:31:17 – Harassment and the impact on Raelynn’s military career
  • 00:38:19 – Breaking generational patterns and changing her life story
  • 00:41:47 – Starting My Heart of the Story and finding her voice

About the Guest:

Raelynn Beintker is a United States Marine Corps veteran, mother, wife, storyteller, podcast host, and self-described creative rebel. She joined the Marines as a young woman looking for a way beyond the poverty, instability, and family patterns she experienced growing up. Her military service gave her independence, structure, new experiences, and a wider view of the world, while also exposing her to sexism, double standards, and challenges that shaped how she saw herself. Today, Raelynn is the host of My Heart of the Story, a podcast centered on identity, connection, self-discovery, and the courage it takes to share our stories. Through her work, she encourages people to stop making themselves smaller, question the stories that hold them back, and choose what they want the next chapter of their lives to become.

Learn more about Raelynn and her work through My Heart of the Story:

Website: myheartofthestory.com

Podcast: Search My Heart of the Story on Spotify, YouTube, Apple Podcasts, iHeartRadio, and Amazon Music.

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Dog Tag Diaries
Sharing True Stories from Women in the Military
Dog Tag Diaries provides a platform for military women to tell their stories and speak their truths. We are not only raising awareness about military trauma, and mental health but fostering a supportive community where women can find strength and inspiration in each other's stories. It's an informative way to reduce stigma and promote healing through open dialogue and exploration of therapeutic modalities. Our goal is to increase connections among women to offer empowerment, encouragement, and a sense of belonging as we each navigate the unique challenges and experiences faced by women in the military.
Each week we’ll invite a woman who has served in the military to share her experience and how it has impacted her, or we will bring in a guest who can speak about the healing abilities of specific therapeutic methods. This is a podcast you don’t want to miss.

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kimberly Liszka

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Kim served in the United States Army/Reserves as a Combat Medic, Combat Nurse, Flight Nurse Instructor and one of the Top Female athletes in the Army.

Kim worked 20+ years as an ER nurse and decided to explore the world as a travel nurse. She's an Advanced Wilderness Expedition Provider and Chief Medical Officer for numerous endurance/survival expeditions in different countries.

Kim has a son, Jace and a daughter in law, Sammy and 2 grand animals, Joey & Bear. Her dog Camo is her best buddy. Camo is the sweetest yellow Labrador Retriever to walk this earth. He loves licking snow, riding the ocean waves, visiting carnivore food trucks and loves belly rubs and treats.

Fun Facts: Kim's lived in the Reality TV World! Fear Factor, American Ninja Warrior-Military Edition, American Tarzan, Spartan Namibia and more to come!

Dakota Olson-Harris

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Dakota is currently serving in the Army National Guard and has been for the past 15 years. She enlisted as a tank mechanic then earned her commission as a Combat Engineer Officer. She has two deployments, Iraq and United Arab Emirates.

On the civilian side Dakota works as a counselor providing readjustment counseling for Veterans, current service members, and their families.

Dakota is a wife and a bonus mom to four kiddos. They have recently added to their family with a baby girl, totaling five kids. They also have two dogs, Paco and Elsa.

Her family loves to go on adventures whether it's walks, hiking, camping, or just going on a road trip to visit family.